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This e-mail exchange (reproduced with the author's permission) is from a man in his 20s who was cured of TMS by following the advice on this website, despite an especially punishing method of masturbation he formerly employed.

April 6, 2002

First of all, I'd just like to say that your site on TMS was very informative.

In February 2002 I had diagnosed myself with TMS after having come across a page about it on another web site. [I was the one who told that other site about TMS, if anyone cares. -- Ed.] Since then I have been worried about what to do - for the past couple of years I've been aware that I cannot ejaculate like most other guys, and certainly not with a girl. That page finally gave my problem a name. After looking at that page I thought that I would have to see my urologist and probably undergo some sort of psychiatric treatment. Then today I came accross your page, and was pleased to discover that I may cure myself without medical or psychiatric help.

However, I am a bit concerned, because my situation is not QUITE like those you describe on your page. I'm a 20 year old male, and have been masturbating in the prone position since a very young age, possibly 4 or 5. I achieve ejaculation by rubbing it (actually it's more like CRUSHING it) against a sharply curved surface, such as the arm of a chair or sofa, the back of a chair. I have been able to do it against the edge of a bathtub but only with great effort. In any case, my penis is not erect when I ejaculate, but is under extreme pressure. So my point is that I cannot achieve ejaculation simply by rubbing against my bed or the floor while laying face down; this does absolutely nothing for me. It has to be some sort of sharply curved surface like those I mentionned. So, do you think that my situation is significantly different than most TMS sufferers, because there is no bed involved? Are the treatment and my chances of success the same? I'd appreciate your opinion about this. Your site has given me new hope, and I thank you. My 7-day abstination period begins today.

I told him that the key thing about TMS is lying prone against a surface, not necessarily a bed and the treatment (recommended by Dr. Sank in his article) is the same.

His next report: came sooner than expected

April 12, 2002

Late at night on Tuesday, day 4 of abstaining, I don't know how it happened, but I just got myself in the mood and succesfully jerked myself off by hand, sitting in a chair. Took me about 30 minutes. I was able to do it again on Wednesday evening, this time about 15 minutes. And today, Thursday, I did it again three times in various positions, all by hand. I don't know what's gotten into me. I keep telling myself that I should continue to abstain before trying again, but I just seem to be getting in the mood, and my hand seems to work, so...

One weird thing that I have noticed, is that when I finish masturbating by hand, only one burst of semen comes out - I feel my pelvic muscles convulsing repeatedly, but no other burts come out. Also, I don't feel completely turned off yet. I lose my erection, but I feel as though I could get myself off again by humping a chair. I restrain myself, but the urge is there. Any thoughts??

I replied that the 7-day abstention period I advise on my site is only a guideline, and that some people will need more than 7 days and some will need less. I told him that the difference in the ejaculation is probably a result of the change and that it is apt to be more like it used to be once he is accustomed to masturbating by hand and is more relaxed at the point of ejaculation. And yes, I advised him to resist the urge to hump a chair. is not designed to provide medical advice and does not provide medical advice. All material is for information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis, and treatment. Please review the information contained on carefully and confer with your doctor, psychologist, or other health care professional as needed. Copyright 2002-2016 by

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