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Stories of quitting masturbation

According to a survey of over 8000 males by in the first half of 2007, 41 percent of males and 36 percent of females have tried to quit masturbating at some point. Not anywhere near this number are successful at it. Have you ever tried to quit? Why, and what happened? Please share any information here that would be useful to others.

When I was 17, I tried to quit. I think I was just embarrassed about masturbating and wanted to legitimately tell people that I didn't do it. I was going to try to get into a relationship with a girl and if it got to the point where we were going to talk about stuff like that, I wanted to honestly tell her that I didn't masturbate. We were both going to be at an overnight summer retreat that lasted 4-5 nights. I knew I couldn't masturbate because I would be in a room with another guy. It seemed like a good time to quit. The retreat started on Monday, I think, and I didn't masturbate after the Friday night before the retreat. I got through the retreat OK (although the girl didn't want to have a relationship with me or even do anything). I made it through my first night at home OK too. Then came Saturday night and I was just very aware of my penis. I don't know any other way to describe it. I couldn't do anything without thinking about how much I wanted to masturbate. I tried to watch TV but couldn't pay attention because of the distraction I was getting from my penis. It just wanted to be touched, or something. I was trying to watch this old movie on TV and just decided to get it over with. I didn't even turn the TV off. I just masturbated on my bed with the movie going. It wasn't long before I had my orgasm. I never tried to quit again. I made it 8 nights. (age 29)

I tried quitting when I was 19. I was trying to get involved with a girl and wanted to save my sexual impulses for her. I suppose I was planning to quit masturbating entirely and just have sex with her. We were gonna go out near the end of January. I stopped masturbating about two weeks before. Then three days before the date, she called it off because her dad had been in a car accident. He wasn't hurt, but their family car situation had been messed up. The date was just complicating things, or so she said. The next morning I woke up and decided to put an end to my abstinence. I had been practicing prone masturbation up until then but I was feeling so sensitive that I just decided to stroke it. It was the first time I had ever used my hand to masturbate. I came in about 2-3 minutes and thought it was a great feeling. I was sorry that I had wasted 10 days when I could have been masturbating. I later found out that this girl slept with a lot of guys. (age 23)

I think you won two ways. The girl helped you overcome prone masturbation, and the masturbation helped you overcome a girl who slept with a lot of guys and treated you badly.

When I was 21, I quit masturbating for a few weeks. I hadn't had a wet dream since I started, and I really wanted one again. I only halfheartedly quit though. I still masturbated, but I stopped a long time before I got to orgasm. I thought that would make it more likely that I would have a wet dream soon. I made it about 25 days before I masturbated too long. I got to the point where I knew I would ejaculate in about 10 seconds. I felt kind of dejected that I had spoiled 25 days of abstaining, but I decided to go ahead and finish. It wasn't the greatest orgasm ever, but there was a lot of semen. (age 26)

Most males don't succeed at getting a wet dream when they quit masturbating for a few weeks in order to get one. You can learn more about that on my wet dreams page.

I had to quit masturbating for a little while last year on doctor's orders. I had a flareup of epididymitis and the doctor told me I had to abstain from ejaculating until I was cured. I looked shellshocked when he told me, and he said I could ejaculate once a week. He was a fairly young doctor and I think he understood what I was feeling. I had to take a couple of prescriptions and avoid physical activity, even regular exercise or too much walking around. I think I was diagnosed on a Friday and decided I would masturbate on Saturdays. I was very "hot" when that first Saturday came and I hadn't masturbated in nine days. It was a good time, and I felt like I could have done it a couple more times, but I remembered the doctor's orders and I didn't. I made it again through the second week and had a nice orgasm on Saturday afternoon. Then the third week I accidentally saw something on TV on Thursday that just got me so ... hot ... I had to do it. (I hadn't sought out something arousing, but just happened to come across something that I knew couldn't be ignored.) The week after that, the doctor said I had improved enough that I could resume normal activities. That day I went home and masturbated 3-4 times. It's good to be healthy. (age 27)

It would have been better if you had discussed specifically with the doctor what you were thinking and not merely thought what he must have been thinking. Never be embarrassed to tell the doctor that you masturbate. The doctor masturbates too.

When I was 21, I read in a book that it was impossible for a male to quit masturbating. I wanted to show them wrong. So I quit. I lasted for a whole week. I gave in when I was sitting on a toilet and my penis was there in front of me and just demanded attention. I never masturbated on a toilet before, but this time it was just so urgent. The guy who wrote that book was right. (age 24)

Do penises really demand attention? You're the second man on this page who has claimed so.

I've been abstaining for 160 days. I've already had 7 wet dreams. You wrote that this will do damage to my body. Can you explain in more detail, because I'm fine. Do I have to stop this? I quit cold turkey 160 days ago and I'm not lying. (age 25)

Male sexual health is helped by frequent and consistent ejaculation. In the short term, sharply reduced (or sharply increased) ejaculatory frequency can lead to prostate pain. In the long term, a team of doctors led by Dr. Graham Giles found that males who masturbated most often when they were young had the least incidence of prostate cancer later. Dr. Giles recommends that younger males masturbate at least six times a week. Most men your age masturbate a little less than once a day. However, the reason I believe your story is a lie is because you never used the word masturbate in your message. By writing to me about quitting masturbating without mentioning what you quit, I believe you have an issue with masturbation. It's OK if you don't want to say the word out loud, but I urge you to accept masturbation as normal, healthy, and fun and to at least admit to yourself that you do it frequently.

Follow-up: I started masturbating at 15 (2-3 times daily) but 162 days ago I made a bet with my friend about who could go longer without masturbating or having sex, and he lost almost immediately, but I did go on to see how much I can resist the urge, and now 162 days later I have stopped thinking about masturbation or sex, and my life is much better. I have more energy, my focus is much greater, my sleep improved, my urination is better, and my social life expanded. I know that masturbation is normal, healthy, and fun. I did it all the time and I admit it. I only wanted to know the risks.

I think you're better off if you ejaculate frequently. I would really like to know how quitting masturbation changed all those things for you. Anyway, you haven't stopped thinking about masturbation or sex, because you're reading a masturbation web site and are corresponding with the author for the purpose of bragging about how long you've gone without doing it. I kind of think you're thinking about it more often than males who do it at a typical frequency.

I quit masturbating once. I don't remember why. I just said I wasn't going to masturbate anymore. That lasted all of three days. On the third night, I got a massive erection and just said I've got to go for it. I had one of the best orgasms ever and I've never thought of quitting since. (age 18)

Yes, many males say three days is the peak time.

The only time I ever quit masturbating was when I decided to give up prone masturbation after finding I followed the directions on the site and figured it would be no problem to go a week without masturbating since I had gone 13 years without before I started. The first couple of nights were OK as I had gone 2-3 days without masturbating many, many times before. But on the fourth day, I started feeling very antsy and instead of only thinking about masturbating at bedtime, I was thinking about it constantly. That is when I printed out the countdown chart. It really helped me focus on getting through the week and not giving in to the constant temptation. I made it through the week and learned to masturbate the usual way, but the last three days were really tough. I don't know how anyone could give up masturbating completely. (age 22)

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I have read all the stories on this page and notice how many of them give up after 7-8 days. I have quit masturbating three times (once for four weeks, once for five weeks, once for seven weeks) and each time that one week mark was the hardest to get through. Once you have made it past about 8 or 9 days, it gets easier. (age 26)

OK, but why did you give up masturbating three times for 4-7 weeks? And why did you go back to masturbating? I'm thinking you encountered the same kind of feeling at four, five, seven weeks that other readers have described happening at the same number of days.

Follow-up: I was trying to bring on a wet dream, which I have never had. You're right, eventually I got obsessed with my penis and just had to do it. But I was able to go a lot longer than the average guy!

Did you learn anything from that? By my way of thinking, you missed out on more than 100 orgasms that you would have had in those weeks you were abstaining.

I tried to quit masturbating for 2-4 weeks. The first week was so easy. I was actually worried when I didn't get a boner from watching porn, but then it hit me. Second week, I was so horny and attracted to girls who I only thought were cute before, now they were perfection. I had wet deams every now and then and they were so amazing I was super-disappointed with my life when I woke up. After 15 days I decided to watch porn but not masturbate, what an idiot I was. Now I'm back to masturbating daily. (age 24)

I'm glad you learned your lesson.

I wanted to quit quite often when I was younger but now I realize it's one of the happiest things I do. Congratulations to you for having this site that celebrates masturbating! (age 37)

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